BY: Dr. Laura Louis
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Affair-Proof marriage – How-to Tips: Secrecy vs. Honesty
Affair-Proof Marriage! Many affairs start when their partner prefers to share their problems with another person besides their spouse. The researchers from the University of Colorado Boulder’s Department of Psychology and Neuroscience found out that about 21% of men and 13% percent of women reported infidelity at some point in their lifetime.
By the time an actual affair occurs, there had been unaddressed problems for a long time. Even if you think that you and your husband aren’t the type to have an affair, we all should take a look at what are the ways to “affair-proof your marriage”.
Talk some and listen always
Many affairs start when people begin talking about their problems with another person instead of their spouses. They feel like the other person can understand them better. This can lead to closeness, which if left unattended, can lead to an intimate emotional relationship. Instead of doing this, try to be more open with your spouse. This can prevent your mate from seeking someone else’s validation.
Meet each other’s needs
Couples sometimes get lost because they lack intimacy. It doesn’t necessarily mean having sex only. There are other ways to ignite intimacy. Keep dating. To stay affair-proof, find other sources that can stimulate excitement.
Choose your circles
If you have a set of friends that are committed to their marriages, you will be less likely to cheat on your spouse. Oftentimes, if you keep hanging out with your group of friends that don’t have any problem with married couples sleeping around, it is also most likely that you will do it yourself. In marriage, it is important to have a good support system in your marriage. Choose your circles wisely.
Assess your Level of Temptation
Never forget that you have resources to check when you feel tempted by an extramarital affair. Use the tools that you keep in mind when you feel like cheating and are tempted to ignore logic for a thrill.