BY: Dr. Laura Louis
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Have You Been Neglecting Your Spouse? Below are 5 ways to tell if you have failed to give your significant other the attention they need and deserve?
We have all been there before. Feeling like there aren’t enough hours in the day and not enough sleep in the world. You find yourself wrapped up in your career, school, or your children. You’ve stretched yourself as far as you can go and you cannot extend yourself anymore. You are trying to dedicate your time everywhere but your relationship is what is suffering the most. Ask yourself are you neglecting your spouse? Has your relationship taken a backseat? Here are five ways to determine whether or not you have given your significant other the cold shoulder.
Neglecting your Spouse? 5 Ways to Tell
1. You Don’t Spend Enough Time with Them
Has your spouse complained that you are never around? They feel like they NEVER see you or get to spend time with you. Maybe it seems like you are always on the go and you never stop to kiss your boo on the cheek or tell them that they look nice. You guys haven’t spent alone time together in forever. You haven’t been on a date in a long time or even had time to talk to one another.
2. Everything is Short Lived
Because you have a schedule to keep, conversations are short and to the point, breakfast is almost nonexistent, and your love life is down the drain. You guys haven’t had the time to take things slow or to enjoy the moment because of the responsibilities that are piling on day by day. If you cannot remember the last time you and your spouse watched a movie together then you might be in big trouble. If you cannot remember the last time you guys spent more than two consecutive hour together then you might want to reschedule a few things in that busy life of yours.
3. You are Living Separate Lives
Your schedule is so busy that you do not have the time to even catch up with your boo. You do not know what the latest is with their promotion at work or whether or not they got that raise. You have become so wrapped up in your own problems that you did not even know that your spouse had a flat tire the other day or that their favorite aunt is sick. You guys are even starting to eat dinner at different times of the evening because you cannot seem to merge your schedules.
4. You Have Completely Checked Out
Do you feel like the connection you once had with your spouse is completely gone? Do you feel like your marriage has fallen off completely because of your busy life? Things you used to do with your spouse that were enjoyable have stopped. You barely communicate or relate to one another. Do you feel like you have outgrown the person you once were and left you spouse behind in the process? If so, you might have abandoned your marriage.
5. Your Spouse is Not Your First, Second, or Third Priority
Do you often find yourself ignoring your spouse’s phone calls or text messages because you are just too occupied to talk? Has your boo stated that they feel unimportant to you? Have you made important decisions without consulting your spouse lately? These are clear signs that you have been neglecting your marriage. To find out how to get back in good graces with your spouse, check back in next week for a new article.
Dr. Laura Louis is a Licensed Psychologist/Therapist in the Atlanta, Georgia area. If you’re near and would like to get some of her services, please contact her or make an appointment online! You can also check her YouTube Channel for more great stuff.